I always hear moms and dads complaining about their babies being “too clingy” and wanting to be held all the time. It seems like a constant thing brought up amongst parents. They’re always trying to find ways and ask for advice on how to get their baby to stop being so attached.
Why would you not want your baby to be attached? They grow up so terribly fast. One minute they are just a month old, depending on your for every diaper change and feeding the next they are in Kindergarten and don’t want you in the room when they get their teeth cleaned at the dentist.
The day my 5 year old told me he didn’t need me in the room at the dentist was a very emotional time for me. I realized my oldest baby wasn’t a baby anymore. He grew up so fast right before my eyes.
One f my twincesses, Addsin, has been very “clingy” since January, when she was in the hospital after episodes where she stopped breathing because of her asthma and RSV. It was one of the scariest times of my life. I stayed by her side every moment she was in the hospital, just as I did when the twincesses were in the NICU. I believe she felt that I was there and that created a unique bond between us.
The past week or so, she has been even more clingy. At almost 11 months old, she had no teeth. This one tooth has been fighting to pop through for 2 months. It finally popped through last night. I’m not sure if that is why she has been so clingy, but she has only wanted me. My mother in law and husband both tried to hold her and get her to sleep and not scream. As soon as I would grab her, she would calm down and pass out.
I enjoy these snuggles. I get so overwhelmed with the screaming and the whineyness. I admit that. But I look at my kiddos and remember that one day…. they wont want these snuggles anymore. My 2 and 5 year old rarely want to cuddle, maybe only when they are sick or when its storming. It makes me sad that they rarely want snuggles. So I have to take advantage of snuggling these two little princesses while I can.
How do I get things done, you may ask? Well, I either wait untl nap time, or when they are watching Frozen or playing with their brothers, ask my mother in law to babysit, or baby wear. I have two carriers I use to wear the girls, whether it be around the house, for a walk, or out on the town and shopping. I enjoy wearing them. Its extra free snuggles with my adorable twincesses.
Snuggles don’t last a lifetime. Love does. Memories do. While I know they will not remember the snuggles and kisses, I will. I will remember those times when they look at me with so much love in their eyes and fallen asleep staring at me. I will never forget those little moments.
My name is Sonya and I am the mother of four wonderful kiddos (Aiden, 5, Elijah, 2, and Addsin and Emmalynn 10 months.) I am the wife and caregiver of a wounded warrior after injuries in Iraq. I am currently a SAHM, blogger, wife, mother, caregiver and student! I am going to get my Bachelors degree in Medical Information at Davenport. I also write my own blog (www.adventureswithkiddos.com) and co-write another (www.itsallfreeonline.com).